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16 Va. J. Soc. Pol'y & L. 346 (2008-2009)
Anger is Not Anger is Not Anger: Different Motivations Behind Anger and Why They Matter for Family Law

handle is hein.journals/vajsplw16 and id is 354 raw text is: ANGER IS NOT ANGER IS NOT ANGER: DIFFERENT
MOTIVATIONS BEHIND ANGER AND WHY THEY MATTER FOR
FAMILY LAW
Robert E. Emery
CONTENTS
I. A  New  Understanding  of Emotion .................................................... 346
II. Rational and  Em otional A nger ......................................................... 348
III. Em otional A nger  and  Pain  .............................................................. 349
IV. Recognizing Pain Behind Emotional Anger ................................... 350
V. Demonstrable Benefits of Recognizing Pain Behind Anger ............ 351
VI. Other Emotions Behind Anger: Longing, Grief, and Fear ............. 352
VII. Some Implications of Emotional Anger for Family Law .............. 354
Mark Leary1 made many important arguments in his paper, Losing
Perspective. However, I want to focus here on only one straightforward
implication of his analysis: anger is not anger is not anger. From the
perspective of the emerging scholarly discipline of law and emotion, this
simple point could have profound implications for family law and family
lawyers.
What do I mean when I say, anger is not anger is not anger? Most
simply, I mean that anger has different meanings in different contexts.
This assertion may seem obvious, even gratuitous. I believe it is not.
Sometimes anger is aggressive. Other times, anger is a reflection of
deeper hurt, longing, grief, or fear. Distinguishing between the emotions
behind anger can be critical for helping family law clients to act more
rationally and less emotionally in relationships that almost always
continue, in some form, long after a legal action is initiated or resolved.
I. A NEW UNDERSTANDING OF EMOTION
The idea that anger has different meaning in different contexts is not
merely my assertion. This view is based on new models of emotion that
rely on evolutionary principles and emerging neuroscience evidence.
These new conceptualizations hold that emotions are not isolated
psychological experiences or neurochemical reactions. Instead, the new
view holds that emotions are a part of broader systems of motivation,
behavior, and brain circuitry. These systems serve adaptive functions
both in the immediate environment and over the course of evolution.
An example and an analogy may help to clarify this general
description of emotion. Traditional psychological theories of emotion, of
which there are many, typically define emotions as internal, subjective
Mark Leary, Losing Perspective: Ego, Emotion, and Overreactions to
Undesired Events, 16 VA. J. SOC. POL'Y & L. 425 (2009).

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