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23 J. Value Inquiry 3 (1989)

handle is hein.journals/jrnlvi23 and id is 1 raw text is: The Journal of Value Inquiry 23:3-13 (1989)
©1989 Kluwer Academic Publishers. Printed in the Netherlands
Articles
Friendship and moral growth
MARILYN FRIEDMAN
Department of Philosophy, Bowling Green State University, Bowling Green,
OH 43403-0222
What does friendship add to our moral lives? Virtue theorists and feminist phi-
losophers are among those who have recently given a good deal of philosophical
attention to the moral dimension of special relationships, including friendship.'
This paper will extend those discussions in a new direction. In the first part, I will
consider briefly how commitment to particular persons differs from commitment
to abstract moral guidelines, such as principles and rules. Then, I will suggest, in
Part 2, that commitments to persons, in particular to our friends, offer us impor-
tant possibilities for moral growth and for transformation of the abstract moral
guidelines to which we are committed. Finally, in Part 3, as a brief counterpoint,
I will reflect on some of the risks involved in relying on our friends to inspire the
sort of moral change discussed in the second part of this paper.
1. The nature of commitment to particular persons
Relationships vary considerably. We can relate to others in ways which approach
equality and mutuality; or we can relate to others in ways which involve forms of
dependency or hierarchies of power and authority. The sort of relationship which
I shall explore is friendship, that is, a relationship which is based on approximate
equality (in at least some respects) and a mutuality of affection, interest, and
benevolence.2 Friendship, in this sense, can occur among lovers or familial relations
as well as among people not otherwise affiliated with each other. To a greater or
lesser extent, one can be friends with one's parents or children, siblings or spouse.'
Being a friend to someone involves being committed to them and trusting them.
In countless ways, from the trivial to the monumental, friendship invites us to
marshal the greater part of the scarce resources of our care, attentiveness, and
trust in the selective support of our friends, even though other human beings have
similar needs or qualities. This is not equivalent to saying that friends have claims
on our personal resources, although I would probably argue that point on another
occasion. My suggestion is psychological, rather than morally normative, and

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